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What a woman really wants

Posted in FemDom, male submission, my darling slut, rope on a slut with tags , , , , , , , on September 8, 2009 by Maitresse

This has been the subject of a few movies and books, not to mention squillions of crappy magazine articles, over the years. Mostly they come from the perspective within the meta-narrative which casts women as merely suppport actors… props and helpers of men. Some seem to accept living on the margins in the little feminine, passive box, which is their business.

Here’s my thoughts on the subject. It’s a lovely rainy day and I’m relaxing at home with my feet up, daydreaming about having them worshiped by a worthy slave. And another at my side on his hands and knees for me to rest my drink on. And another to serve the drinks… And another with an artistic phisique out on the lawn raking or something.

I like to have doors opened for me. Not because I’m one of “the weaker sex” but because I’m superior and deserve it. I like a male slave to pick up and clean up around the house because it’s his place to serve me. Most of all I like to be respected as the Goddess that I am.

A thrall comes in handy to kneel beside the bed and help slip my feet into five and half inch black patent stiletto shoes before we go out for a fetish night. Or he can wear a rope harness and skirt while he’s making dinner and setting the table.

I like to have a man kneeling at my feet to be flogged, spanked or caned when I’m feeling a little stressed and want to relieve myself. Forget stress balls. A good hard heavy whipping with a long flogger made of fine grain Italian belt leather is just what a woman needs to let off some steam and feel at peace with the world again.

On weekends my own darling slut comes over and serves me like this. It would be really fun to have other slaves around to call on during the week, just when I feel like it.

And fetish nights out are the greatest. There’s nothing like dressing up in black PVC, in a pencil skirt and wasp waisted jacket, like the senior female executive from hell (or heaven). Imagine going in to work in the morning and having to greet Her across half an acre of polished mahogany desk? The sexual tension would be absolutely tangible, but in an office it would all have to be deliciously unspoken. Magic. Almost makes me want to take an executive position managing a legal firm. I’d have a lovely dark office, all teal and antique gold, with ebony furniture heavy enough to double as bondage equipment after hours. Gaggles of males working in the place would wear silk panties and fishnet stockings under their three piece pin striped suits, not to mention the deep welts on their backsides from frequent canings.

Ahem… where was I?

My primary is slim and well groomed, with distinguished silver hair that he likes to refer to as ‘salt and pepper’, he comes up very nicely in basic black for a kinky night out. I put his collar on him and he walks around all night on the end of my leash… It’s been a while since I’ve given him a proper flogging in public which is something that ought to be addressed next time we hit the clubs. Now that the weather’s warming up, he can walk around half naked so I guess I need to order him to get a full body wax too.

Last weekend I made up a couple of whips for a new order. One of them was indeed made from heavy belt leather. It was absolutely gorgeous. I’m going to make another, with a dozen or so half inch tails about two feet long. That will be absolutely thumping! It will bruise a lucky slut just looking at him, muahahaha. Considering I’ve also finished a matching set of cuffs for my darling slut, perhaps we do need to get out and play!


The slut returneth

Posted in FemDom, getting all metaphysical, male submission, my darling slut, the scene with tags , , , , , , on June 7, 2009 by Maitresse

Yes, my darling slut has his blog up and running again. He was actually quite upset when he found it was suspended. I had to give him a good spanking and a cuddle before we went out.

Turns out one of the links weren’t ‘our sort of people’. Well, that’s sorted now and we can continue tapping away happily. In the meantime I was having a look around for possible alternatives for him. There are a couple of sites that use WordPress to run their blogs, but none are as quick or comprehensive as the Press itself. Then there’s blogger which allows adult content but the interface isn’t quite as smooth as this. *shrug* Horses for courses.

It’s a little odd to experience a kind of separation anxiety when one’s partner is no longer on the same host. Unexpected. Particularly since the whole thing started off as a bit of an experiment. I started this one and invited him to be a co-author…. During the login he began his own and away we went. There’s even a bit of a competition going as to stats LOL. I did tell him I was going to take lots of photos of his spanked arse so I could generate more traffic. Since he’s my slut it is appropriate for me to use his body like that if I please. That was when his library of vintage BDSM comics came out… The big guns.

No doubt we’ll see how all that progresses. In the meantime it’s nice that we’re back together as a blogging BDSM couple. By this stage I guess you’re either warm and fuzzy or about to be ill. Hehe.

Aside from blogly matters this weekend sees me replete with lovely new lingerie and a very sexy satin nightie. No, not black. Subtle coffee coloured satin with a black lace trim. I also picked out some new underwear for my slut, which fits him *very* well. You may get to see some photos of that in the near future.

I’ll add one final thought, in a story. Lately a few of our fellow BDSMers have been pondering communication between dom and sub. How do you bring up an uncomfortable topic? When do you share something with a partner relating to your submission or domination. This is something that can be tricky, like all communication between humans. Particularly when you’re maybe in a dom or sub frame of mind. There are times when my darling slut is feeling very submissive and as soon as I’m in the door he’s on his knees worshiping me. Other times I’m feelilng like a Domme. If you’re spending a lot of time with a person odds are you’re not going to be in that role all the time.

Yesterday we went to a couple of sex shops looking for some rings for the strap on and a new dong. At one point we’d picked out a lovely sparkly purple silicon dong. Somewhat longer and thicker than what we’d been using previously. At the checkout the thirty something long haired gentleman was informing us that silicone lube could not be used with this particular model, nor oil. Not oil? Water based only, he asserted. This was not good news. The only lube we use is copha which is vegetable oil.

At this point there was an opportunity to have a bit of a play. I approached and enquired about the use of vegetable oil based lubes for them. Both the guys blushed. I must admit it was a bit of a rush, since they were now thinking about the use of a strap on dildo all lubed up and ready to go…

By the time we arrived home I was in a Domme headspace. My slut wasn’t feeling terribly submissive so it was necessary to do a bit of work on him before I fucked him. He’ll probably tell you all about the things I was saying to him as I whipped him. The dirty little slut begged me to fuck him like he deserved. Every time he opened his mouth without saying “yes Mistress” or “please Mistress” he was whipped again.

When I did fuck him with the new dong it was wonderful. I made him my bitch. He really loves a good hard fucking and I must say I’m a bit bruised from pumping him so hard.

When we were lying in bed cuddling, I asked him how it all went from his perspective. “We need a bigger dildo.” There are definitely times when I don’t ask for feedback because anything he says is going to seem like disrespect. Other times though it’s like management, good care and feeding of your new slut. He is an affectionate and loving human being. His submission is a gift to me that I treasure. As his training continues and he gets harder whippings or bigger strap ons I want to know how it’s feeling for him.

I guess I agree with what thumper and Lexi are thinking. You know it’s necessary to communicate in a D/s relationship particularly when you’re playing with corporal punishment. But it can be really tricky.

From time to time you hear about “do me subs” or “topping from the bottom” when a sub or bottom is percieved to be demanding or trying to run the show. It can be hard to say just where that line is and it probably varies from person to person. Before I found my darling slut I did encounter a number of male subs who didn’t particularly care about me as a person at all, who simply wanted someone to step in and act out a role in their fantasy. Needless to say I’m not sitting around in my lovely satin lingerie now with any of them.

Between two people in a relationship though, especially in a situation where there is an imbalance of power, there needs to be scope for the person in the submissive position to be able to maintain their personal boundaries or at least their control over how they wish to give them up. If something makes you genuinely uncomfortable, you should be able to say it. It might need waiting for the right moment… You don’t want to bring up a distaste for anal sex, for instance, in the middle of a heavy flogging.

Whenever my slut comes to me with something to say about how we’re playing or what we’re planning, I love to hear it. Recently I’d suggested he wear his collar to a particular place in public. About half an hour later he came and knelt before me and asked if I would reconsider. He wasn’t comfortable with it. He’s my sub and not a slave. Even if he was, I’d still consider what’s in his interest as a person and as my own lover.

Whether he’s using safe words during a scene or discussing his experiences with me outside of roleplay, I respect his boundaries. It would certainly be very uncomfortable if he didn’t offer any feedback about how his training is progressing and how he’s feeling about the relationship. There’s a difference between being the Domme, having the whip hand, and flying blind pushing another person around.

That’s my .02 anyways. YMMV


Posted in my darling slut, sources, the scene with tags on June 7, 2009 by Maitresse

Unfortunately my darling slut has had his blog suspended, temporarily we hope. Everything is backed up so if he doesn’t reappear on wordpress very soon I’ll give you his new url.

It’s a bit of a shame really. I do like the wordpress interface. Perhaps there ought to be a 18+ category? There do seem to be a lot of wordpress blogs with adult content and they are very popular. Anyways, if we can’t continue here I’ll let you know when and where we transfer.

xxx Maitresse